One day, many years ago, Brent and I sat down with the 31 Days to Fix Your Finances from The Simple Dollar and had a long talk. We have since started the 31 days many times, but never have finished. But in my opinion, the most important day is the first one – defining your values. What drives you and your family? On what basis do you make your most important decisions? What happens when you can’t decide which path to take? For us, we found it was extra important right now to take another look at our values and put them in the forefront of our minds to help us when we’re faced with so many paths to take. We don’t know where we’re going, but we do know where we’re not going – because of our values.
One caveat – those of us who know us personally will be surprised to see that God and/or Spirituality is not on the list. It originally was, but we decided that it was so overarching and global over our lives that it was just understood. God is the one who holds all the values together. Just like we wouldn’t deliberately make a decision for our family that would cause us to die, we wouldn’t make any choices that would cause us to go against what we feel is God’s will for us. And we feel that our values are God’s will for us. So God isn’t on the list, because He is the list.
Even if you think you don’t have any values – you do. The problem is that when your values aren’t defined, you forget them or have ones that you don’t find important. Going into a no-job situation, we could easily have a value of “making money” without knowing it, but then we’d end up at the first fast food place we’d see that was hiring. Not what we want. When we have values that we really care about. we can make the right decisions for our family.
Homer Family Values
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